Lōōk: There’s Plenty of Time

The Initial Feeling

Running late for events and meetings was never fun. I’m a guy who can get quite anxious in those situations.

I find my level of stress depends on what mode of transport I have at hand. Walking or cycling is always easier on my stress levels, probably because I can always move that little faster, and be a little less late, if I want to.

While driving though, 20 min late triggers a higher stress alert in me. I can’t do anything to speed up if I am stuck in traffic or I’m near the speed limit. Living in inner city Sydney, being stuck in traffic  happens alot.

So how can I feel more relaxed when I’m driving and 20 min late to where I need to be?

After doing BJ Fogg’s workshop last year, one day I realised the answer was seeing that there is Plenty of Time.

The Existing Behaviour

So before we get to that answer, let me briefly make clear what my problem was, as a behaviour.

Trigger (or cue):

When I was driving and running late, I would feel anxious.

Existing behaviour:

I would glance at the time, on my car’s clock, in the centre of my dashboard.

Feeling after the behaviour:

In my immediate anxious state, this indulgent glance made me feel good for a split second, before I actually registered what the time was. But then I realised I was late. So, that blip of a good feeling was always replaced by a stronger, reinforced, sense of stress. Not good!

Side note: don’t get me wrong here. I was not having panic attacks or hyperventilating. I was just anxious. Some deep breathing always helped, and are always recommended… but there was another way to relax that required far less of a jedi sense of presence and breath.

So back to the behaviour: Every time after my behaviour was triggered, there was a clear cause of my heightened stress. This was my judgement about the time my car clock showed me, and how late that made me feel I was.

I wanted to change that feeling of stress I that I reinforced in myself. To do this, I needed to do two things.

  • Make it very hard to do the existing behaviour – see the time.
  • Replace that behaviour with one that reinforces better feelings – in this case of being super relaxed.

What change to my behaviour would allow me to do these two things?

Enter the Plenty of Time Behaviour

The simplest solutions always seem to work best. I cut a strip of post-it note, wrote on it with black marker, and stuck it over my car clock:

When time anxious, I would look at my clock and see Plenty of Time
When time anxious, I would look at my car ‘s clock and see Plenty of Time

The New Behaviour

The first few times, my new behaviour was like this:

Existing trigger/cue:

When I am driving and running late, I felt anxious.

New Behaviour:

I glance at the space where I used to see my car clock and the time. I see Plenty of Time

Improved Feeling after the Behaviour:

which makes me laugh, forgetting in that moment that I had used this behavioural trick on myself! Immediately, I realise the absurdity of feeling rushed when I’m stuck in traffic.  This calms me down a lot.

Win! The Plenty of Time behaviour made me feel so much better then the “Judge my Lateness” behaviour.

The best part is this has helped me to feel better about running late in general. Like in my last post on creating a new daily cardio behaviour, the feeling you experience after the behaviour (being more relaxed) actually reinforces and motivates you to do the new behaviour. With no more than a post-it note worth of effort on my behalf.

Behavioural scientists call what I just outlined: training an incompatible behaviour. I first learned about this while reading Karen Pryor’s excellent Don’t Shoot the Dog, recommended by BJ Fogg before his workshop.

More recently, I came across it again in Charles Duhigg’s awesome book The Power of

I removed the time from my phone's lock screen
I removed the time from my phone’s lock screen

Habit. He uses a similar approach for changing habits.

I will be look at more behaviours in life and work through the simple lenses offered by these frameworks in the coming weeks.

Oh, and I should mention I used the same principle when I looked at my phone to check the time. That usually made me feel anxious! But with a little tweaking, my iPhone screen looked like this —->

Until next post!

Tsung Xu

3 Things to Motivate Behaviour Changes

What things in your life would you want to make easier to do? What things would you like to start to start doing now? With these questions in mind,  I’d like to share 3 deceptively simple things to help develop better skills, behaviours, and habits faster.

Quick background: I (re)learnt these principles when I did an amazing course on behaviour change with BJ Fogg in California in June last year. BJ’s an acclaimed consultant, professor at Stanford, and counts Instagram cofounder, Mike Krieger, amongst his past students.

Motivation

Late last year, I realised I was exercising regularly, but daily cardio was missing. I knew how good regular daily cardio felt, from lap swimming 1km everyday for a few months. That had been a few years back, and I was not yet ready to jump back in the pool to that extent!

So how do you start doing “daily cardio”?

1. Make what you want to do easier

Daily cardio is not specific enough for me to action. So I made it more specific, by asking myself

  • what exactly do I want to do? (Which exercise activity)
  • where will I do it?
  • how long should each workout be?

To make it as easy as possible, I chose to sprint on the spot, at home, for 1 min.

Only one minute you say? Well think about how many times have you said you would start a new skill/diet/training program/etc where you asked yourself to commit say 30min or more per day? Did it become a habit? Or did you give up after only several weeks?

Sheer willpower can sometimes (well, more like often) be unpredictable enough not to be relied upon. This is why BJ Fogg’s Behaviour Model does not rely on increasing motivation. For consistent progress and eventually big results, start small. Very small. As small as one minute of sprinting on the spot.

I had made my behaviour easy enough to do. Next, I had to ask myself in when/in what situations will I do this? What will trigger me to do this behaviour?

2. Use an existing habit as a trigger

A trigger for a behaviour that works is one that, when cued, will consistently result in the behaviour happening.

To start new things, I knew that the most motivated time of day for me was in the mornings before work. I decided the most reliable trigger for me would be waking up. Plus, committing just one minute in the morning is hardly going to make me lose sleep, or disrupt my morning routine.

So the behaviour I actually applied to start doing daily cardio was:

After wake up, I sprint on the spot, at home, for 1 minute, everyday.

Results

I always felt great after I did my new morning minute cardio. I had more energy to focus on the rest of the day, by focusing on doing a small, very achievable step.

Just to be clear, I would start at a slow pace jogging on the spot, lifting my knees to chest with each stationary stride. By the end of the minute, I had built up my knee lifting pace to be as fast as possible. Also, I didn’t time the minute exactly. I almost always ended up doing more.  The key was that such a seemingly tiny step actually motivated me to keep doing it

Not only that, my daily dose of heart pumping has motivated me to do other types of cardio training, at other times of day, far more often.

3. Make it feel great

Cardio can be its own reward, and acknowledging the good feeling from the endorphin rush reinforces progress. If the behaviour you want to start does not make you feel great, do a mini celebration straight after doing it. This could be a smile to yourself, exclaiming “woohoo!” or “yes!”, a little dance on the spot – whatever works for making you feel good about it.

Notice motivation is not one of the 3 points I covered. The act of doing something that makes you feel great, at the time and afterwards, seems to be self-reinforcing. It can boost your motivation to do that behaviour again, and other behaviours you would like to do.

Hope this post, my first on here, helps you towards an easy-to-do-and-trigger behaviour for you to do. Check back to this blog as I share more insights on productivity, learning and play!

3 Things to Motivate Behaviour Changes